You asked:

I was busted for breaking a dorm rule. No one was hurt or anything like that, but it’s been alleged that I had some questionable paraphernalia. Now I think I’m in for it. How do I keep from getting into deeper trouble?

Well, it’s always best to avoid breaking rules if you want to avoid trouble … but sometimes trouble happens.

To keep from making things worse for yourself, don’t panic, don’t lie and know your rights. Admit that you messed up, serve up a sincere apology and cooperate with the school staff. I cannot tell you how many times I’ve seen a simple violation turn into a huge deal just because a student thought it would be a good idea to lie to an R.A. or a school official. Once you’ve been caught, the offense will become a report -- whether you cooperate or not -- so don’t rack up extra strikes by arguing and lying and making lame excuses.

A report of an offense will contain your name, ID number and a description of the events that took place. A residence life official or someone from the Dean of Students office will see it, but it won’t be broadcast all over campus -- and in most cases, parents aren’t notified, so you can wipe your brow now. Records of offenses are, however, kept permanently in college records. Tell your side of the story but don’t let it be reported that you were belligerent and defiant. Students who accept responsibility for their actions often fare better when it comes to punishment.

Conduct violations can result in a range of consequences, from a verbal warning to dismissal. Punishment is determined by the frequency and type of offense. Often, for alcohol violations, students are required to take a class or even pay a fee. School officials realize students make mistakes; they are not out to get you or make your life more difficult. So do yourself a favor and eat that slab of humble pie.

Name: Liz Cruger
School: College of William and Mary
Year: Senior
Major: Psychology and English lit
Her deal: This is Liz’s second year as an R.A. for freshmen. She is also involved in several campus activities, including pep band and the belly dance club.

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