You asked:

I’m considering living in a co-ed dorm. Is it hard to get used to?

If you have tons of friends or siblings of the opposite sex, you may actually feel more at home living in a co-ed dorm. On the other hand, if the prospect of living among the opposite sex freaks you out, you’d be smart to request same-sex housing.

In all likelihood, your options won’t be all or nothing. Some schools have same-sex dorms, but many offer various co-ed living options. For instance, a dorm may be co-ed by floor (girls on first floor, guys on second), wing (guys live on one hall, girls on another) or room (guys in one room, girls next door). And FYI: Schools that allow a girl and a guy to room together are really rare, in case you were considering it.

The obvious benefit of living in a co-ed dorm is the opportunity to meet both guys and girls, with the social convenience of having them around at all times. Keep in mind that there are shared spaces -- lounges, kitchens, study areas -- in both co-ed and same-sex dorms, so you won’t miss the opportunity to socialize if you lose your nerve when it comes to living among the opposite sex.  

One space you’ll definitely be sharing is the bathroom, which takes some getting used to in any new living situation. Whether you end up in a co-ed or same-sex dorm, wear a bathrobe (which covers more than a towel does) to the shower. If you’re uncomfortable using the bathroom, try running the water, visiting another floor’s bathroom or finding a single stall somewhere else on campus. Believe me, you’ll get used to it. 

So, is it hard? Most people say it’s actually more difficult to go back to same-sex living -- like in a sorority or fraternity house -- after you’ve lived in a co-ed dorm.

Name: Liz Cruger
School: College of William and Mary
Year: Senior
Major: Psychology and English lit
Her deal: This is Liz’s second year as an R.A. for freshmen. She is also involved in several campus activities, including pep band and the belly dance club.

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